The Importance of Moaning During Sex
The Mind Shift
One of the most commonly asked questions I get is how to be good in bed. Guys ask me all of the time how they can best please their partner. We all have a desire to be really good lovers, it’s natural. But what a lot of us don’t realize, is that it’s not just about your physical skills, but mental too.
In any good sexual experience, there is a mind shift that occurs. Often that shift is surrender. Surrender comes from the release of cortical that taps into the primal brain. Our primal energy and sexual energy are closely connected, so when we shut down our connection to primal instincts, sex becomes boring, routine, and disconnected.
We have natural instincts to be sexual but because of our societal conditioning around sex, we shut down the instincts and don’t explore them in the way we are intended to. Then, when we decide to be sexual, it can often be awkward and embarrassing and feel unnatural. By this time we’ve disassociated with our primal nature. And while this is a problem that manifests itself into men wondering how to be good in bed, the roots go much deeper.
Tapping Into Primal Instincts
To reclaim that primal sexuality and really learn how to be good in bed, begin to explore different sounds during sex. Sound expands the sensations. Practice thrusting so that you have stamina and an open pelvis with a lot of flexibility. Use an open mouth inhale and exhale. This will get you out of your head and into your body. Focus on the sensations in your body and feel them intensify.
Just as it takes practice to be a master at anything else, it takes practice to be master in bed. Take time and practice on your own. Own your skills. Then, when you’re in bed, let go. Surrender. Be so confident in your art that it is embedded in your body. No thinking or remembering required.
And when you are in bed, making love, ride the edge. Be grounded in security but be tinged with insecurity, feel the thrill. A roller coaster is fun because you know you’re safe and you feel secure enough to surrender to the wild ride. Unleash your primal impulses. Allow chaos to enter your bedroom.