It’s one of the most common questions I get asked as a sex coach. How do you finger a pussy?

Some of you may have come a long way from the first time you had your hands down a woman’s pants. And now you may know your way around a little better than you did the first couple of times.

Or, you just think you do.

Unfortunately, most men actually don’t know how to finger a pussy.

When was the last time a woman told you that what you were doing with your hands was pleasurable? When was the last time a woman told you what you were doing wasn’t pleasurable?

The fact of the matter is, you can’t always tell when your fingers are working the right areas. If you read my blog about How to Spot a Fake Orgasm, you know very well that some ladies fake their moans and groans in an attempt to avoid an awkward situation.

Women are reluctant to show men how to finger a pussy. It can be deflating for a man to hear that from his partner or significant other. So the conversation tends to be avoided.

As a result, you have a bunch of drunk pilots aimlessly navigating their way around a g-string with no hope of making her cum. And worse than that, you have a bunch of unsatisfied women who will likely not be reaching for their phones to hit you up when they’re feeling frisky.

But what if things were different? What if you did know how to finger a pussy so well that she had you on speed dial? Or you knew how to activate her pleasure center so magically that your girlfriend or partner wouldn’t leave you alone?

How to Finger a Pussy

I love all of the messages you guys send to me on social media.

And I’m so happy to be able to be a neutral outlet for you to ask all your questions about sex and pleasuring women, like how to finger a pussy.

Most guys don’t get the chance to have a woman, no less a woman incredibly experienced in sex and pleasure techniques, show them the secrets and hidden doors to the female pleasure center.

But now you’ve got me, and I want to share with you one of these techniques that are included in my wide-ranging pussy pleasure course – Pussyology.

Stroking the Clitoris

There are a few things about the clitoris that we first need to clarify.

First off, the clitoris is NOT the same thing as the g-spot. They are in different places of the vagina, and they can each stimulate different types of orgasms.

The second thing a lot of guys don’t know is where the clitoris is. And while every woman’s body is different, most of the time you can find the clitoris in the upper right quadrant of the inner lips of her vagina. From your point of view looking down at her vagina, it’s in the upper right quadrant.

When you finally make your way down there (hint: you never want to go straight for the clit), feel around for it. You will feel it pulsating and enlarging when she is turned on.

Now, the key thing to remember when you’re stimulating the clitoris is to keep one consistent motion. Don’t go all over the place like you’re scribbling a drawing. Do one constant motion, side to side, up and down, diagonally. And most importantly, don’t give up!

Some women will take a while to reach their climax, so you have to keep going! Read your partner’s body language. You can even ask her if she likes what you’re doing or what she wants you to do to her. There is no shame in asking for directions, especially when you finally get her to her destination.

But guess what? The clitoris isn’t even the first place you start. So many guys make the mistake of going right downstairs without doing the proper foreplay. Which ends up making women freeze up or unable to climax.

Want to know what the first steps are leading up to the clitoris? Want to learn how to finger a pussy and stimulate a woman the right way? Check out Pussyology, an instructional program to show you everything you need to do with your hands and her body to make her go absolutely wild for you.