I’m dating a guy that I like, but he isn’t good in bed…
A guy I know reached out to me yesterday. He said,
“Sarrah, a friend called, and she wants to know how to speak to a man she’s dating about him hiring you as a coach. She likes him, but he’s not that great in the sack.”
Women reach out to me with this question all of the time! Women really want mind-blowing sex with the guy they’re with, but they avoid mentioning that they are sexually unsatisfied to their guy because they don’t want to deal with his ego. So instead she shuts down, fakes orgasms, and eventually stops wanting sex.
Guys, there is no getting around the fact that if you have an ego about your sexual competence, you will never have an incredible sex life. You need to be the first to admit that you don’t know what you don’t know and be open to exploration and growth in this area of your life.
For my ladies, here’s a conversation starter for you:
“Hey, babe. I love what we have and am excited about the possibilities for us. Great sex is like great conversation and great emotional connection. It makes me want more and more when it’s really good. My friend told me about a really cool program specifically for men that shows them how to have next-level sex. We have the basics down, and I’d love for us to level up. The program is for men, but we can actually do most of it together. It would be a lot of fun. Would you do this for us?”
If a guy hears this and jumps on the opportunity, he’s a man that is invested in having the best relationship possible. If he is unwilling to do the work to give you the sex that you deserve, you may want to consider if this is the right relationship for you to be in.
Men, I recommend that you be preemptive and take charge in this area of your life so that she doesn’t have to bring it up.