Avoid These at All Costs
As a male empowerment and sexual education coach, my job is to show you everything you’re supposed to before, during, and after a sexual encounter.
But my job is also to tell you everything NOT to do during sex.
There are certain things that men do in the bedroom and leading up to sex that will completely turn a woman off.
In some situations, it will just make the experience less pleasurable for the woman, but in others, doing some of these things might put a quick stop to what would’ve been an electric evening.
So what are some of the things you should avoid in the bedroom?
1. Rushing Foreplay
I’ve been telling this to guys for years.
DON’T RUSH IT.
When you get rolling with a woman it’s easy to let your hormones take control of the wheel.
As a result, you end up pulling your dick out too quickly or diving in for her vagina without giving her the proper warm-up.
Foreplay is CRITICAL in making her enjoy the experience, and even more important, it is the first step in making her orgasm.
You’ll find that sex is much more satisfying for you, too, when you slow down and enjoy the journey.
2. Talking about your past sex life
This one should be obvious, but I still have to remind some guys.
Don’t talk about your ex, or any of your past sexual escapades when you’re in bed with a woman unless you’re with someone that requests this type of talk as kinky play.
The thought of someone you are about to have sex with, having sex with someone, will throw many women off course.
And women are guilty of this too!
The key to remember is that when you’re in the bedroom with someone, she should be your main focus.
All your attention should be paid to her.
Even if she suspects your mind is elsewhere, she might just end up wandering away as well.
And even if she doesn’t, she’ll feel the disconnect and won’t open up to you and have the incredible orgasms that she’s capable of.
While I don’t think that we should feel the need to hide our past from our partners or feel insecure or upset because of our partner’s past, mystery in a relationship is always going to make you and your partner desire each other more than constantly talking about the past.
Plus goals are super hot and when you’re looking forward into your future, there’s no need to keep digging up dirt.
3. Poor Hygiene
Brush your teeth (floss and mouthwash too!).
Take a shower (and wash your ass and your balls while you’re in there!).
Use deodorant.
It’s not that hard!
I’m not sure how some guys even make it to the bedroom the way they smell.
But I can guarantee you if she catches a whiff of the garlic bread you had for dinner when you go in for a kiss, you’ll send her flying for the hills.
It’s one thing when you’re going at it and build up that musty sex smell between the two of you, but that’s an entirely different ball game.
Take care of yourself, fellas, and she’ll be much more likely to take care of you.
4. Being mean or aggressive
This particular turnoff is a little more complex, as the reason why a man might be being mean or aggressive in the bedroom could be an internal issue.
But in other scenarios, some men get the impression that they need to be mean or aggressive in the bedroom because it’s something the woman likes.
Most of the time, this is a result of watching too much porn.
Don’t get me wrong.
Some women like it a little rough.
But it is very important, especially in today’s climate, that you set some boundaries with your partner before getting into this territory.
And I would definitely not suggest doing it unprompted when you’re with a one-night stand.
In the case that you can’t control yourself from being mean or aggressive, or you never realized you were coming off that way, drop me a note.
5. Body hair
Body hair could possibly fall into the hygiene category, but this is a topic in itself and one that many guys message me about to get my opinion.
Some women love it.
Some hate it.
Some like a little.
Some like a lot.
While others like none.
So wtf are you supposed to do???
The safest option would be to ask her what she prefers.
But you don’t always get that option.
So I suggest you either keep it shaved, or maintained.
Easier access is always a plus!
You Got This
Out of all these things to remember, what I want you to do the most is stay confident.
Confidence is one of the sexiest things a man can have, and in many cases, will even counter many of these turn-offs.
It’s what turns women on the most.
It’s what she craves.
A man that exudes sexual confidence will have her dripping in her panties before you do anything at all.
Start here with these fundamentals that all men need to master.
