Women love a powerful man.
So at some point in your life, you’ve probably either heard of, saw, or even experienced an instance where either you or another man let toxic masculinities guide their behavior in an attempt to make yourself look and feel powerful or in charge.
Toxic masculinity manifests itself in many different ways, but the root of it has to do with a power struggle. Many of these toxic masculine mindsets revolve around acquiring and retaining a certain level of power. A certain sense of victory.
When men feel powerless, or fear that their power might be taken away, they turn to these masculine styles of behavior in order to defend their ego.
Here are just a few examples of toxic masculinity habits and mentalities that men use to feel powerful that women are incredibly turned off by.
1. M.O.E – Money Over Everything
Don’t get me wrong, money can be an incredibly attractive thing. Men who dress well and have a good sense of style will definitely score points with women. And a rich man is usually a successful man, which is also a good look.
But the problem begins when a man makes money his main focus. When he places all of his worth and value into how much money he has. The problem with this is that money resembles external power, and when a guy thinks that his bank account is what makes him attractive he is actually taking away power from his true sense of self.
At the end of the day, if you let money guide your behaviors and mindset instead of your internal emotions, you’ll either attract the wrong type of girl or none at all.
When going on a date, it’s important to talk about yourself to help her get to know you better. But you also need to give some breathing room for the girl to talk as well. When you consume the entirety of the conversation you look either self-obsessed or sound like you’re nervously babbling.
Also, when you’re explaining things, try to avoid talking about accomplishments or skills in a way that sounds like you’re bragging. A man who feels powerless will talk about his wins like trophies in order to acquire a sense of control and power.
3. Objectification & Negging
A lot of men have been taught to objectify women. They may have learned it through television, porn, and even their own family. What this leads to is a man who believes it’s normal to treat women as nothing more than an object to fulfill their desires and if a woman doesn’t respond in the way that he wants them to, then he blames her and sometimes resorts to force to take what he wants.
Women have the right to dress sexy, act sexy, walk alone in dark areas and anything else that they want to do without the fear of attack from someone that is objectifying them.
While some men are conscious of their mentalities, many men go through life objectifying women without even knowing they are even doing it. Negging is something that has resulted from this culture. Men believe they have to put women down in order to shake their confidence so that they will fall for them.
This may work with some women temporarily but a high-value man will never resort to this and all women will despise men that behave this way.
While non-consensual objectification will certainly not get you anywhere with women, it also is increasingly important in today’s climate of empowered women to steer clear of this. Trust me, you’re not going to get away with it. In consensual relationships, women may request objectification from their partner but that is her choice.
4. Rejecting Emotion
While this might be at the end of our list, the rejection of emotion and sensitivity by men is perhaps one of the biggest and most detrimental trends of toxic masculinity. This has to do with men either pretending not to care, or bottling up and rejecting their emotions all in an attempt to appear more “manly.”
It has been long believed that men aren’t supposed to cry. They aren’t supposed to feel sad. And that they should exude strength and power 100% of the time. Which isn’t just extremely detrimental to your mental health, it’s something that cripples you from connecting with a woman on a higher level.
Rather than bottling up your emotions, feel them, and express them without making them your woman’s issue. Women can handle a lot and it’s ok with them for you to have emotions and to struggle but when you make them her problems to fix, she will move into a mothering mode and that kills attraction.
On the flip side, being ruled by your emotions and not in control of them isn’t attractive either. Having emotional maturity is highly attractive.
The Power Struggle Must End
At the end of the day, it’s a power struggle.
Men who don’t feel empowered and confident in their lives most likely have and continue to engage in these toxic behaviors. Only making them worse. While these are just some of the obvious traits, there are far more carried by men who don’t even know they have them and as a result, have been unknowingly pushing women further and further away from them
To be truly powerful in a way that is integrated and healthy, begin to develop internal power and let that flow out of you to create the lifestyle that you desire.
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